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Foster children will always require the best first experience to feel at home. They’ve been through a lot and often have no one to talk to. It’s vital for you and them to feel safe, heard, and understood during their first days at your home.

Provide snacks, drinks, and toys

You’ve just welcomed a foster child into your home, and they need some comfort. You’ll want to provide them snacks, drinks, and toys—and ensure they have a place to play. A child may need more than one activity at once, so give them options when it comes time for “downtime.”

Help them feel safe

The first day with your foster child is a big deal. It would be best if you took the time to explain what will happen and what you can do to help them feel safe. They may not feel comfortable talking yet, but they must know that you are there for them and want their input on how things should go at home.

Make sure you have basic supplies

Make sure you have basic supplies

  • Have a good supply of diapers, wipes, and clothes for the child.
  • Have a first aid kit ready in case of an emergency or illness.
  • Take note of any contact information for other family members who might be able to help out if necessary. 

Help children understand what is happening

To help your child understand what is happening, you will probably want to explain the following:

  • They are in a new place. Your child will be spending time with another family for an unknown amount of time, so they must know why this is happening. This can be difficult for children who have had stable homes their whole lives, but the more you talk about it and give examples from your own life (such as when you moved schools), the better prepared your foster child will be for their new environment.

Don’t be afraid of silence

The first day is a time to be present. Don’t try to fill the silence with your own words or make small talk; instead, give them space to process what is happening. Take note of how they respond, and if they seem confused or lost in thought, don’t push them for answers—instead, let them know that you are there for them and will be there throughout their journey.


When you first welcome a foster child into your home, there are many things to consider. The most important thing is to make them feel safe, loved, and cared for. TFI Family Services will help you every step of the way to ensure that you are providing the best possible care for your new foster child. We hope these tips have been helpful and wish you all the best as you embark on this journey. Contact us today for any further clarification.